Comments on: A very special episode of Life on Shiney Island http://myeclecticmess.com/blog/2009/08/a-very-special-episode-of-life-on-shiney-island/ Diverse Crafts for a Diverse World Fri, 04 May 2012 23:08:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: patty gebhard http://myeclecticmess.com/blog/2009/08/a-very-special-episode-of-life-on-shiney-island/comment-page-1/#comment-17363 patty gebhard Tue, 25 Aug 2009 03:04:16 +0000 http://myeclecticmess.com/blog/?p=766#comment-17363 Beth, As you may or may not know, I have the same problem with my 2 daughters, although they are no longer teen agers, as Amanda just turned 20 last week and Andrea is 22. I fought the same battle with them throughout their teenage years. Andrea, unfortunately got my genetic mess, and Amanda is a carbon copy of her father... I used to obsess about it all the time, I felt the guilt, "could it have been one too many happy meals?, or the lack of good home cooked meals because I worked full time?" I realized that I couldn't blame myself, You just have to love them unconditionally, and hope they will make the right choices in life. It's sooooo hard, I know. You hate to see them suffer, and they will do what they want know matter how hard you try to make it right. I used to cringe and bite my tongue when Andrea would walk out of the house for school in too tight blue jeans, and a t-shirt that clearly did her no justice as it rose high above her belly button......all the while her belly hung over the waist band, that didn't sit anywhere near the waist.... How can you tell them it isn't a good look, when ALL the kids are wearing their clothes like that? It will get better, I promise, your daughters are strong, beautiful girls. You and Steve have raised them to be confidant and your love for them will get them through anything. Sarah is absolutely gorgeous, no matter how much she weighs! So is Emma! I love you, call me Patty Beth,
As you may or may not know, I have the same problem with my 2 daughters, although they are no longer teen agers, as Amanda just turned 20 last week and Andrea is 22. I fought the same battle with them throughout their teenage years. Andrea, unfortunately got my genetic mess, and Amanda is a carbon copy of her father… I used to obsess about it all the time, I felt the guilt, “could it have been one too many happy meals?, or the lack of good home cooked meals because I worked full time?” I realized that I couldn’t blame myself, You just have to love them unconditionally, and hope they will make the right choices in life. It’s sooooo hard, I know. You hate to see them suffer, and they will do what they want know matter how hard you try to make it right. I used to cringe and bite my tongue when Andrea would walk out of the house for school in too tight blue jeans, and a t-shirt that clearly did her no justice as it rose high above her belly button……all the while her belly hung over the waist band, that didn’t sit anywhere near the waist…. How can you tell them it isn’t a good look, when ALL the kids are wearing their clothes like that?

It will get better, I promise, your daughters are strong, beautiful girls. You and Steve have raised them to be confidant and your love for them will get them through anything. Sarah is absolutely gorgeous, no matter how much she weighs! So is Emma!
I love you, call me
Patty

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